The Ultimate Strains Of Relationships

Who doesn't complain about it? If you think you are perfectly happy with your relationship, you believe in a lie you personally weaved.

People report three major relationship distresses that they go through when in a relationship: money, emotional breakdown and unfulfilled relationship standards. Couples report these same factors affecting their relationships mildly to severely.

Most often than not, money is an issue. It causes tension in a couple's relationship before and even more so after marriage! Do I need statistics to prove that money is a top reason for couple conflicts and divorces? Definitely not. You see it everywhere - probably even in your own home!

There are men who struggle with money and hence, become particularly restrictive about relationships finding it pretty hard to afford one. With the current global economic crisis, more souls are sighing about maintaining or even starting a relationship. I know more and more guys who now opt to live single or postpone having relations for this same reason. Now, if the world gets worse, there might be fewer and fewer people settling down!

When two happy souls decide to finally join forces by living together or marrying, this spells more conflict in many aspects. Having to decide communally is truly daunting for people who are very independent. It is uncomfortable and frustrating to have someone to constantly tail and comment on your actions. What was once described as ‘petty fights' could grow an ugly head and may give you something you do not wish for. Make sure to avoid this by never sleeping over problems for a long time. Leaving conflicts un-tackled or dismissed makes matters worse. It is important that couples give time to constructively discuss the problem. Note that I said ‘constructively' because discussing money matters does not always have to end up in a fight.

And if money is hurting your relationship now, it's high time that both of you make smarter common goals and choices to keep your finances healthy. How to do that will take a range of tips and a discipline to religiously follow it. But what matters most is to understand the gist that money should not control your life and make it a disaster.

Emotional breakdown is a given in every relationship. Yet, this is disregarded especially at the onset of every relationship, especially with the opposite sex . It's fulfilling and pleasurable but a relationship gone sour could be a source of anguish and depression. Although most people heal and recover, knowing that this is all part of the love package, it cannot be denied that the strain had made an impact - on a serious note --leaving one fearful of falling in love again.

Of all the three, unfulfilled relationship standards is the lightest form of distress and once in a while, strikes all kinds of relationship even one that is smooth sailing. People make standards for everything and everyone including themselves. They have clear expectations on how their lover should act and treat them. At some point, we fail to deliver and gradually break the strings that tie these standards together. But nobody is perfect and it is human nature to fall short sometimes. There might be ways that we do to patch the strings back up. We say sorry, send roses, give a hug or a kiss, or try to do better to be more worthy but as relationships move farther down the time line, the strings loosen or break. But what is important is that we all make an effort to patch it all back up again.